23 Nov Discussion on Feeling Hurt

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Assignment 6b: Discussion on Feeling Hurt

Consider a time when you felt hurt by something someone said about you. To the degree you are comfortable, share some details about the event. Then identify your inference(s), dysfunctional belief(s), and action potential associated with feeling hurt. Discuss whether your hurt was more associated with depression or anger, or both. What belief(s) would you have needed to embrace to feel disappointed, rather than hurt.

Write a 300-word post addressing the discussion prompt above. Be sure to include information from appropriate texts with proper citations. I am a female so please use something that is relevant to a female and logical.

This is an example of another students work to use as a guide

I recall being hurt by something my mother said to me repeatedly as a boy growing up. Whenever I would do something mischievous or not do something I was not supposed to do, I would get in trouble and likely end up getting a beating. However, the thing that hurt most was her saying to me, “You are just like that old raggedy Steve Bowman.” Steve Bowman was my father. Without fail whatever I did was a result of me being my father’s child. My parents had divorced when I was about three years old. My mother had been the victim of domestic violence and abuse throughout their marriage. I remembered what my father was like so every association to him was negative for me. I was extremely hurt by mother comparing me to him.

I remember believing that I was worthless and had no good value to anyone. Since my father was no good, I was no good. I remember believing that I was not worthy of acceptance because my own mother could not accept me so neither did nor would anyone else. My mother did not love me. I remember believing that being perfect was the only way anyone would ever accept me or love me. I believed that I should not have to go through this experience. I must not be like my father.

The inferences were since my father was no good I was no good, my own mother does not accept me so no one else would, being perfect was the only way to gain acceptance, and My mother did not love me.

The dysfunctional demanding beliefs were, I should not have to go through this, and I must not be like my father.

The negative evaluation of self was, I am worthless and of no value to anyone, I was not worthy of acceptance because my own mother could not accept me

My association was more based in anger. I was angry because I felt like I was being treated unfairly and wrongly judged for something I had no control over. I would have needed to embrace the belief that it was a bad situation, but I could get through it. My preference would have been not to experience it, but I could handle it when I did. I would have needed to embrace and accept myself fully and that I had value even outside of being a son.